| Author |
 Topic  |
|
chris
Permanent Resident
USA
2449 Posts |
 Posted - 11/04/2004 : 12:39:02 PM
|
quote:
Originally posted by VaxGirl
Still have the key? Get your scarf back, maybe take the other one too or just hide it really well. While you're at it, why not have some fun? Get his favorite pair of shoes and hide one of them. He'll go nuts looking for it.
"SmellyCat, SmellyCat, what are they feeding you?"
Hide it between his mattress and boxspring....along with a dead mouse or something.
Men.
chris
Keep on knittin', mama, knittin' those blues away! |
 |
|
|
Wovenflame
Seriously Hooked
Canada
812 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 1:14:09 PM
|
I am not usually the type to be vindictive, but in this particular case I think I would frog the scarf and leave it in a pile in the middle of the floor....or even better, some place in the apartment that he would associate with you. Anything further and you become the bad guy, but the frogged scarf seems like a classic symbol of undone affection to me. It would be worth losing the wool.
-Marlene-
Come visit me at:http://wovenflame.blogspot.com/ |
|
|
|
twstdstchs
Chatty Knitter
178 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 1:20:19 PM
|
Lexy,
I'm sure you are better off without him. (now you know you are!)
The shrimp joke was so funny! As long as you have a key and have to go back for your stuff you might as well get the scarf. But I like the idea of frogging it all over his place. Maybe wrapping it around everything, tying a few tight knots here and there! He should spend as much time untangling it from his lamps, tables, doorknobs, etc as you did knitting it! Sheryl |
|
|
|
F1FAN
Warming Up
USA
85 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 1:29:43 PM
|
Lexy,
You're better off with the JERK! Though, do you think he somehow planned it? He knew that you had a key and you have probably stopped by before.
Forget the scarf - it was something that you created from your heart. though he doesn't deserve it. It will remind him that you are above him and he is undeserving of you.
Don't let this experience change your generous nature. Knit what you love and give freely.
Teri |
|
|
|
truly violet
Permanent Resident
6397 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 3:21:39 PM
|
he is not THE one...............
so walk away and thank the moron for no longer wasting YOUR time.......
( you don't really have to thank him personally, just in your head)
do not waste one second mourning this d*ckwad ,.............. just be glad you are done with him.....
this leaves you free to either find THE one......
or what ever wonderful thing is next in your life
honey, he did you a favor.
violet
(who was in that postion right before I met THE one......... the best thing the idiot boyfreind ever did for me was cheat on me.....or it may have dragged on and I may not have met THE one.....and been married to THE one for over 28 years)
none of this will matter in 100 years.......except I will finally be at my goal weight...vi |
|
|
|
amandaCO
Gabber Extraordinaire
USA
530 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 3:42:50 PM
|
I knit a cable sweater for a boyfriend. Before I was done with it he dumped me. Actually, he dumped me three times in weekend. Man I was a glutton. Dumb college kid, I guess. Anyway, my luck was that it was BEFORE I was done with the sweater. And, it fit Dad perfect. When people compliment him on the sweater he always says "Yeah, if my daughter didn't get dumped I wouldn't have ever gottent this sweater".
I agree with the above. I'd demand that scarf back! Maybe your dad could use it? |
|
|
|
luv2knit944
Permanent Resident
USA
1789 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 4:09:27 PM
|
I'm with you,needleknit. You gave the best advice.
Pauline |
|
|
|
KathyR
Permanent Resident
New Zealand
2969 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 4:09:59 PM
|
Ummmm...how many scarves does this guy own? I'm just wondering if he gets each of his girlfriends to knit him a scarf before he moves on to the next one??? 
Personally I wouldn't bother to get it back. Too many bad memories. I am also not a revenge-type person but I know of a woman who's husband had an affair. She split up with him but kept the key for whatever reason. She slipped in one day and used his toothbrush to clean the toilet!!  Then put it back as if nothing happened.  In the end, though, she managed to forgive him and they are now, presumably, happy with two lovely kids. True story!
KathyR
Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength. |
|
|
|
Mary D.
Chatty Knitter
USA
257 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 4:57:14 PM
|
I know revenge is sweet but why not show him that you have so much more class than he does. My suggestion is to write him a very formal note thanking him for setting you free to find someone worthy of you. If you do something nasty he'll think he was the lucky one, but if you do something classy he'll realize what a fool he's been.
Mary D. |
|
|
|
Sportweight
Chatty Knitter
125 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 5:48:06 PM
|
Lexy,
I'm in the "let him keep the scarf" camp. I would always rather err on the side of being classy and moving on as quickly as possible. It's fun to think about revenge, though. Maybe just write a long letter saying all the things you would love to say to him but of course don't mail it. Very therapeutic but you still get to be the class act and he will always be the heel.
(((Lexy)))
Sportweight |
|
|
|
Momma78239
Permanent Resident
USA
4859 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 6:49:56 PM
|
Don't let him keep the scarf!! The knuckle-dragging idiot doesn't deserve it - and the scarf deserves a much better owner!
I agree with whoever suggested that you give it to a homeless person, or maybe someone who has been a blessing to you in some way.
And you might want to add some cheese to those shrimp just for a little extra "tang".
-Wendy
____________
He has filled them with skill to do all kinds of work as craftsmen, designers, embroiderers in blue, purple and scarlet yarn and fine linen, and weavers-all of them master craftsmen and designers.
--Exodus 35:35 |
|
|
|
gdelrosa
Seriously Hooked
USA
851 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 6:59:31 PM
|
Oh no... This is an awful thing to happen to you. But I agree with everyone else. It's better that you found out what kind of jerk he is before you got any further. And I know this is a cliche but there are tons of nice men out there. I was giving up hope on all men at one point. From my perception, men were nice and gay, or nice and unavailable. I couldn't meet a nice straight guy. But I found one, and I'm very happy. Funny thing is, now that I have a boyfriend, I meet lots of nice datable men.
As for the scarf, I hope it's not a curse. I'm planning on making my boyfriend a hat for one of his Christmas presents.
Gail
|
|
|
|
mamid
Permanent Resident
Canada
1568 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 8:29:25 PM
|
1: let him keep the scarf. It was a gift for him and even though others don't think he deserves it now, he must have deserved it then.
2: don't let him keep the scarf. Get it back but give it to charity. Even the worst drunk on skid row is more deserving of that scarf than that idiot.
Yes, I'm a gemini. Worse - my Venus is in Gemini. *sigh*
Craftiness is Sanity |
|
|
|
celia
Permanent Resident
Australia
2454 Posts |
|
|
rorosity@aol.com
Seriously Hooked
696 Posts |
Posted - 11/04/2004 : 9:38:59 PM
|
Ugh!! I am so sorry you had to go throught that, but better that you did. You know, it really is almost better that you caught him in the act, because now you can't make excuses for him (if you found phone numbers, etc.) Get rid of him and keep him out of your life@!!!!! Some men can be so vile. Don't feel too bad. Most of us have been in some form of this situation and it really does get better. I was in the category of being married with children and having something similar happen to me, so be glad you got out before you had to pay expensive lawyer fees. It all works out in the end....really.
As for the scarf...hmmmm....I would probably either forget it or take it back, but don't make any sort of grand gesture. The reason I say that is because he probably is such a jerk that the dramatic effect you would like it to have on him will probably be lost, because he doesn't seem like the type that really is very caring. I hate him!!!! Can't we just put a voodoo curse on him?
Jeannine
http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/rorosity/my_photos
Destashing - For Sale:
http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/rorosity/album?.dir=/cb32 |
|
|
|
acsc1998
Warming Up
80 Posts |
Posted - 11/05/2004 : 07:43:10 AM
|
Ladies -
I just wanted to say that you ladies are so awesome!!! i've been feeling so down lately because of this jerk and your messages made me feel so much better. Not only did the jokes put a smile on my face, but the sincere messages of support and encouragement warmed my heart. I think I've decided to just let the scarf go. Honestly, I wouldn't want it back and I wouldn't want to give it to someone else that i know - reminding me off all the time and love i put into making it for that ****er! Giving it to chartity is a wonderful idea as well, but i think i'll just let him have it. I'm trying to be the bigger person - i'm sure he's looking for a reaction from me, but what i'm going to do is just leave him to his own devices. i just want to forget all about him.....and if the price i have to pay is losing one scarf, then i guess i'll take that.
and by the way, i've taken your advice and decided to make myself a nice, soft, comfy sweater. I bought the jo sharp silk aran on elann and was going to make things for some friends (i've never actually made anything for myself yet), but i liked what some of you suggested -- i think i deserve something special and i'm gonna make it for me : )
thanks again for all the words!!!
lexy |
|
|
|
fillyjonk
Permanent Resident
1127 Posts |
Posted - 11/05/2004 : 08:08:16 AM
|
Love the joke.
You know, if it were me, I'd try to get the scarf back.
And then I'd donate it to a charity that provides warm things for the homeless or for refugees somewhere. He doesn't DESERVE the knitted scarf.
Maybe he'll develop a wool allergy and get a rash every time he wears it?
(The only gifts I've ever knitted have been for family members or female friends...I think I believe in the sweater curse). |
|
|
|
Atavistic
Permanent Resident
6604 Posts |
Posted - 11/05/2004 : 08:58:32 AM
|
I would take the moral high ground. Move on gracefully. Let him keep the scarf.
Also, with all due respect, if you ever had sexual contact, even with protective measures, get an STD/HIV workup.
Amanda
“There is more than one way to burn a book. And the world is full of people running about with lit matches." Ray Bradbury |
|
|
|
Milinda
Permanent Resident
USA
3816 Posts |
Posted - 11/05/2004 : 09:50:01 AM
|
quote:
Originally posted by biodb8er
I would take the moral high ground. Move on gracefully. Let him keep the scarf.
Also, with all due respect, if you ever had sexual contact, even with protective measures, get an STD/HIV workup.
Amanda
“There is more than one way to burn a book. And the world is full of people running about with lit matches." Ray Bradbury
I would have to agree. A scarf lost is just that, a material item. In the long run, how you feel about your integrity and behavior will be more important. Also, Amanda brings up a very valid point about a STD/HIV work up, just to be on the safe side. The guy can keep the scarf as a reminder of what he threw away, YOU! His loss, in my opinion.
M L |
|
|
|
~rosie~
Gabber Extraordinaire
USA
435 Posts |
Posted - 11/05/2004 : 10:49:41 AM
|
Nice story shaggy!
I like the idea of frogging the scarf in his place and leaving a pile of yarn, though I don't know if I'd actually do it.
Lexy, we're with you.
I'm hopelessly addicted. I'm strung out on yarn. |
|
|
|
Topic |
|
Topic Locked
