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jennaknits
Gabber Extraordinaire
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 Posted - 03/21/2006 : 2:40:50 PM
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I knew this wasn't going to end well for me.
I made my ex-boyfriend a hat back when we were dating. Things hadn't been especially super between us for a while, but hey, excuse to knit a hat. He wanted 3 yarns held together, the three Christmas colors. We went to a shop together, he picked out the $21 worth of yarn I needed, and he paid for the DPNs. It took me two days, and was a lovely hat. A bit big, but a decent hat nonetheless.
It didn't get worn. In fact, it often got left on the filthy floor of his room under the futon, in a pile of dust, and once, with a spider walking on it. I'd plead, when are you going to wear the hat I made you, and he'd always insist it was too warm. We live in NH. There's rarely such a thing. Even near Christmas, it never saw the light or the outside world. We broke up in early December, and I asked if he didn't want the hat anymore. He had a new girlfriend who I had taught to knit, holding her hand through the whole process, and I told him if he didn't want something by another knitter around, I'd take it back and reuse the yarn. Oh no, he still loved the hat and was sad at the idea of parting with it.
Then last night, I saw him in a new knitted hat that matches his winter coat. Despite it being March and warmer than it was in October, November, December...
I hate to say it, but it's as close I had been to crying since we broke up. I felt rejected as a knitter. I had coped with feeling rejected as a girlfriend, a woman, a friend, a person (and to think, I broke up with HIM!), but as a knitter? OH HELL NO. That was too much of a hurt. Am I weird for being more hurt by that than anything he'd done to me in a long time? Somehow, I think you all understand me...
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Atavistic
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Posted - 03/21/2006 : 2:48:19 PM
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Well....I would more offended by being rejected for being ME not for my knitting. But whatever floats your anger boat...
Amanda,
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Knits
"Is that my Not-Mine Sweater? Whoever gets that Not-Mine Sweater is very lucky." |
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Lanea
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USA
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mokey
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susiknits
Permanent Resident
USA
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Posted - 03/21/2006 : 5:52:16 PM
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You will certainly find better, and you certainly deserve it. Chalk it up to a bad boyfriend gone badder, and move on.
He certainly doesn't deserve YOU! Anyone who will knit, on command, a three-strand hat, deserves a LOT better!
-- susi
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counterculture
Gabber Extraordinaire
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Posted - 03/22/2006 : 07:51:08 AM
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Oh, I always chaulk these incidents up to "signs I wasn't paying attention to" Yup! They are there, right in front of us.
Still, it's personal and it's painful, but best to learn from these experiences and better luck next time. Oh, and thank your lucky stars that you didn't knit him a sweater!! Hey, two days...it was a gift -- once we give a gift, it belongs to the receiptant... |
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ozknitter
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Posted - 03/22/2006 : 08:34:28 AM
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Hi Jenna,
I would be very tempted to send back the DPN's he paid for with the suggestion of bending over and shoving them up his arse.
I just saw your photo, you are an incredibly good looking young lady, you will have lots of guys flocking around you.
I would be offended that he didn't like me, not my knitting.
At least he should be happy now he has a girlfriend who will knit on command for him.
Cheer up and remember onwards and upwards.
Knit in peace and harmony.
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desi_knitter
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knit_chick
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ScubaQueen
Seriously Hooked
USA
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Posted - 03/22/2006 : 10:47:51 AM
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quote:
Originally posted by jennaknits
He had a new girlfriend who I had taught to knit, holding her hand through the whole process,
Did you teach her after you broke up?
quote:
Originally posted by jennaknits
I told him if he didn't want something by another knitter around, I'd take it back and reuse the yarn. Oh no, he still loved the hat and was sad at the idea of parting with it.
Translated that means he is still sad about parting with YOU!
~Wendy
Somewhere in Texas there's a village missing its idiot!
... My Knitting Blog.... My Other Nonsense
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KL
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Posted - 03/22/2006 : 2:00:35 PM
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Jenna- As Rose stated, you are indeed a "hottie"! Chalk this up to "better now than later".
Leave the hat-let it be a reminder of what he has lost and missing- and believe me, he will think about that! KL |
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jennaknits
Gabber Extraordinaire
USA
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Posted - 03/23/2006 : 3:27:32 PM
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Awww, thanks. I'm long since moved on (to someone who appreciates my knitting!), but I always felt a little rejected as a knitter that he'd never wear that darned hat. And I'm not trying to "float my anger boat," it just so happens he and I live in the same dorm (oh college) and as such, I happen to notice all of these stupid little things. It sucks, but I've done quite well with it.
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ozknitter
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Posted - 04/21/2006 : 9:21:06 PM
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Hi Jenna,
I knew you would find somebody soon, as you are as somebody put it a total "hottie", I showed my son (he's 16) a photo of you and he said "do you know her, what about an introduction". He was quite crushed when I told him you lived overseas.
Just as well you didn't take up my suggestion with the DPN's as you now have somebody that loves and appreciates you and your knitting.
Good luck in the future.
Knit in peace and harmony.
Rose in Melbourne, Australia. |
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